Hi Brooklyn
Thanks for commenting – I know, growing up as a male-presenting person, I found the messages iI was hearing from supposedly progressive teachers and feminists were really discouraging. Although they did give me a basis to say “I don’t want to be a man”, and I am happier embracing my nonbinary self now that I know that nonbinary is a thing! I hope your son grows up to be confidently himself, whatever gender he may or may not choose in the future 🙂

Hi Dan. I agree that it’s problematic and always has been, but at the same time a lot of the rhetoric around 80s and 90s feminism, at leats as it trickled down to the general populace, framed Patriarchy not as an overarching system but as shaped through the characteristics of men. The lessons were supposedly that women had to be more like men to get ahead, and men should learn to be softer and “more like women”. It had some pretty negative effects on my AMAB self, when I was still very much trying to figure out my gender identity and not really aware that nonbinary was even an option, back then. It’s kind of disappointing to see the same assumptions and rhetoric repeated in what was otherwise a very positive representation of gender and trans identity.