By Any Other Name...

Yesterday, Jan 18th, 2016. At 4pm. My long time feline companion of 18.5 years, was put to sleep due to illness/rapid deterioration.

Kind of a personal question, kind of TMI - possibly. But I'd be interested in personal information from anyone going through perimenopause or premenopause and relevant symptoms.


Anyone wanting to respond can contact me via PM on DW.

Thank you.

Have Fever (digital temperature taking actual fever)

Seem to be spending money ordering groceries the store doesn't have enough of. Ugh. Resting. More potential non dead from me likely later in the week.

Accepting all drop bys of low sodium v-8 and/or lamb and/or red grapefruit.

So I was fannish over here. How Willow Would Have Done Smallville & Season 1 of SGA.

*le sigh, Oh Dreamwidth, whenfore are thou to figure out this comments bork that keeps me from using you?*

It has been brought to my attention that there are white people, here on DW even, putting up posts about how they miss the good old days when it was all white people talking about all white people stuff, all the time. And these days the discussions are too intellectual and meta layered and philosophical and full of social justice and requiring deep thinking and is forcing a drive to locked posts and lack of participation.

Because obviously white people being incapable of contributing something valid to a discussion, mainly because they never bothered to think about it before, is not a concept to be courted! Oh noes!.

And apparently linkspam (in particular) and other postings with links pointing out foolishness is pure trolling because pointing out foolishness is NOT leading clueless ism-ing people by the hand to the water's of privilege absolution and the happy days of never having to think critically about race or ablelism, or cisgenderism or Americentricism and Euro Western-centricism ever, ever again. Because damnit, well meaning white liberals should never be told when they're doing it all wrong and hurting and insulting people, without a cup of tea, and whispered genteel words and hedging and it should only ever be suggested to them that maybe they might want to look at things a different way - possibly - some day - perhaps.

And it all boils down in my ears to "The Meta In Fandom Is Moving In Directions I Don't Like." And I cannot even say then those people should instigate the meta they do like to see, because the fact is, fandom and fans are changing (slower than molasses in winter, but still). And the old meta was rather one sided and privileged and exclusionary. The new dimensions in meta are here to stay. Calling it 'The ruin of fandom' really isn't going to make it go away and it certainly won't stop the momentum that's built up.

Crying like American Political Tea Baggers about how "This isn't the AmericaFandom I Grew Up With", when said AmericaFandom you did grow up with, was all Jim Crow, Blacksploitation, Redlining and more, is just plain small minded. And if you're going to be that small minded and racist in public, then yeah, people are going to put up big orange warning cones around you and move on with the conversations.

Note: And along the lines of warning cones, I've changed my journal style here, because I do not want to use styles created by branchandroot; someone who's used the 'tone' argument.

"As far as I'm concerned, the likes of linkspam are engaged in trolling, not critique. Critique involves engagement with the actual thoughts of other people, and what linkspam is contributing to is, as you say, pointing and yelling. Plus informing people they have been pointed and yelled at, which is beyond gratuitous. And then the comm readers go to yell, not to engage, freak out the writer by rampaging around and breaking windows, and we wind up right back at "lock up your daughters thoughts". And then anyone who complains about being savaged is accused of being an adherent of that perennial straw-man, the 'Cult of Nice'.

[Commented Enabled @ iJay]

Please check out the following to do with Buzz's lack of privacy. I turned it off from my side bar, but didn't realize to REALLY TURN IT OFF - you have to scroll down to the bottom of the gmail inbox, where you can check your logged in sessions, and click 'turn off buzz'.

Moreover I'm glad as hell I didn't fool around with it. Because the last thing I would want, was for various people in my life to be outed, because of how I label my contacts. And I'd hope people I know wouldn't want others outed because of their address books either.

So:

1. CleoLinda's WTF Here.

2. Lifehacker Info Here.

3. CNET on how to purge yourself from Buzz and block others here.

Yes - another so important it needs xposting post. Head's up via: la_vie_noire via rydra_wong.

So I wrote a wall-o-text post with ponderings on sexuality, introversion, polyamory, overstimulation and more and figured I might as well post it on DW too; seeing as how it was an unexpected pleasure to find someone a few years ago on iJay, who understood my pov on the topic of massages vs sex (massages win).

Also, I'm currently attempting an experiment. The post in question is here, by the way, at the place of experiment (in seeing how to post @ DW and be able to save my comments without having to start a -new- journal, blah blah adjustment cranky cakes).

It of course does not make xposting easy and thus xposting is not likely to happen automatically. But y'know, experiment.

ETA: Membership not needed to comment. Membership is likely to equal access list.

zvi_likes_tv had surgery at 8am this morning. She's out now and her doctors are so confident about her recovery, she may be home by this evening (Sunday, Nov 29th 2009).

Zvi, (zvi_likes_tv) is currently inpatient (and doing better for it) and accessible only via her cellphone.

Good wishes appreciated.