All my life, I’ve heard hundreds of jokes about men struggling to find the “mythical” clitoris, or about how women’s orgasms are rocket science. I’ve also heard heartbreaking stories of women who have never experienced the big O at all. For the longest time, I thought the problem was either men’s inexperience or that some women were just born with “difficult-to-satisfy” biology.

But during my university years, while studying entrepreneurship, I started digging deeper into the topic. Our initial hypothesis was simple (and maybe a little biased): men were the root of the problem (no offense, gentlemen!). Yet, after surveying over 200 women, we discovered something eye-opening — 1 in 4 women find it difficult to express their desires in bed.

That led me to an important realization: how can we expect partners to know what we want if we don’t even know how to describe it ourselves?

Here’s where the taboo comes in. Talking about sex is hard enough, but talking about masturbation? Practically forbidden. When men joke about it, it’s just “dudes being dudes.” But when women bring it up, it’s considered unladylike, or it sparks fears that vibrators will outshine partners. And yet, studies — and countless therapists — show that women who masturbate regularly are far more likely to orgasm than those who don’t. For example, a controlled study found that 90% of women in a directed masturbation program gained orgasmic capacity, compared to just 53% of those in conventional treatment groups (PubMed). This underscores that self-exploration is not just taboo—it’s demonstrably empowering.

Why? Because masturbation is the ultimate way to explore what turns you on, what feels good, and how your body responds.

That’s the spark behind YourLibet. We wanted to create a toy that doesn’t just deliver pleasure but helps women discover their preferences, experiment without pressure, and gain the confidence to put those desires into words. Because when you know your body, you can actually share that knowledge — and that’s the key to intimacy.

So, ladies:
Explore yourself.
Practice saying what you like out loud.
Share that knowledge with your partner.

At the end of the day, no one will ever understand your body better than you. The better you know yourself, the better your partner can love you.

Now go have some fun — and I’ll see you in the next blog post!

Sāra, YourLibet Co-Founder