Had that and from personal experience, it didn’t work. I perceived them as just that - extended family, not really someone I’d trust like a parent. I learned from them but it wasn’t…dunno, personal?

But other than that, I fully agree that children need more than just parents.

I do not agree that parental figures don’t matter. There is a bond between parents and children that is simply special - however, parents don’t have to be bio parents. Insert screenshot from the post, where one of kid’s parental figures got filled in by an “outsider”.

Was raised with divorced parents, seeing my father only occasionally. I can see ways it’s fucked me up - lacking confidence, typical “male” skills and I often had to face singular point of view of life when growing up. I didn’t “feel” it making damage, because it didn’t do that much - but I lost a lot of growth I’d otherwise had.

Also have female friend who had similiar situation and, at the same time, similiar outcome.

Children need both parents, simple as. Not only is raising a kid by yourself a horror for parent, it’s also not enough for a child. Doesn’t mean it will produce a psychopath or emotional wreck, but it will show up repeatedly after growing up, if done well only in small ways, but if not…welp.

And again, it’s not about just lacking a father - IMO, both parental figures are needed.

There’s one common element here. Let’s ban social media.

Terminal tho. But honestly, for me, shit’s the same. Windows deals with most of it in the background (didn’t use 11, dunno how it does it. Prolly sets PC on fire. ), then prompts you for install.

When I tried Linux, terminal screamed at me, weird menus popped and update failed on me in two distros. :| But I chalk it up to me still being a newb xD

My partner’s mother gaslights a lot. Think about scenario: She does something wrong, she backs off from situation for a few days to allow memories to wane a bit, then grabs the weakest link and starts bending the truth to paint herself in a bit better light at worst, and at best, shift whole fault on another person. She focuses on small, easily misremembered parts of story, and if you call her bullshit, she will accuse you of either not remembering or twisting it against her.

And she did that to my partner for their whole childhood and now my partner fights depression and lack of feeling of self worth. Also reacts to “I remember it differently” with aggression, which bites me in the ass but at least shields her from her mother.

I grew up with another gaslighter, my granny, who reframed and twisted everything to be my mothers fault and if she tried to defend then it was her remembering wrong, “not seeing such simple stuff” or being against granny. She did so with malice and ruined my mothers mental health. Same with her (granny’s) husband, who literally hanged himself.

Both cases were narcissistic but I can see someone using it out of other reasons.

If you don’t hear it often? Sans gaslighting, “maybe you need it then”.

Always rethink your position and switch PoV for the other side for a bit mentally. But if you get back to where you are, feel free to feel attacked lol. Mostly due to phrasing. This is accusation, and accusations aren’t thrown out of good will.

With gaslighting, just wave your hand, say whatever and change topic. Either you got too emotional and focused on needing to win, or the other person is willing to throw anything at you because they feel attacked and already full on with defence. No moving there either way. Just drop it and move on.

Okay, as someone who played Morrowind with only OpenMW

• Fighting, at first, sucks. Leveling it to not suck sucks. I get why they did go with it but…yeah. Thankfully you can get used to it.
• Lack of markers is coolio. Descriptions are good enough - got lost only once, and that corresponds with number of bad directions I found playing. And it bolts your focus onto the world, so it’s good.
• Level by doing is most prolly my fav system of leveling. But Morrowind also has teachers.
• But graphics are…dated. That’s why I used OpenMW. Old 2D games are charming, old 3D games tend to turn less so…

Doesn’t change shit. Epic is literally pumping out free games and what does it give it? Nothing. Because it’s store is straight up vile to use - no human feedback anywhere, the whole shit is suited for publishers to orchestrate however they see fit. Same shit applies to most online game stores. They are aimed at publishers, not gamers, and thus ignored by the latter.

But hey, let’s look at two shops that are, slowly but surely, carving their part of the cake. GOG and Itch.io. What differentiates them? Both are trying to play with users. GOG with rescuing old games, dropping DRM as much as possible and working with other launchers and Itch by creating probably the biggest Indie publishing site ever. But Itch.io is niche and GOG is still lagging behind.

Calling someone messiah is not a blasphemy tho. However, equaling yourself to God or his Son is a blasphemy. But now that you pointed it out, he was destined to fall for it at some point with his overinflated ego xD

Meh, just archaic. In ye olde times it wasn’t gay to fuck, it was gay to be fucked. Ancient Greece, Ancient Rome, modern times Turkey, etc.

Isn’t it Athens version of Denocracy rather? Everyone gets a vote and all that?

Green on the topic of anarchy I shall add xD

Meh. Dying in your sleep, surrounded by loved ones or doing radical stuff sounds fine to me.

Just save me from Alzheimer/Dementia. That way to go sucks in a major way. I want to die as Me, not as some husk that wears my face.

I hate that I have to agree but I can’t find any hole here, at least tied to art itself. There are holes overall tho - not everybody has time, sense or will to pick up art. Art is hard and even harder it is to feel good about your art, as grasping the ideas that you’re doing art for yourself and it does not need to be perfect may be hard. I know, I tried to drag a bunch of people into it.

But I can see how art can be used to make seeing beauty in everything and honestly, good advice. Not universal, but thanks for giving me that ^^

I still think that some people simply need external validation to perceive themselves not even attractive but normal, mostly due to low self esteem and them being in a state they hate (for example, being fat). Pointing out that a lot of their attractive traits like hair, eyes, smile etc. didn’t change quite often helps them start seeing it themselves.

I do not believe we should rely in external validation tho. Just that it can, and sometimes even is needed, to feel good about yourself.

Great. I know at the very least 3 people who survive only thanks to the external validation, because their own opinion about themselves is so low they need to rely on external one to feel any self worth whatsoever.

So, tell me what to relay to them. And no “you are worthy” - cause that’s external validation.

Like many other mentioned, welcome to human psyche, where your PoV does not have to match the PoV of others. Some need awareness that external validation exists. Some need awareness that while it exists, it does not have to be more important than your own view. There is no cookie-cutter option, sadly.

Best case scenario is - teach a kid that their view is valid and true, while also pointing out that people have so varied tastes that she will always be considered attractive and we have no “hard” definition of beaty - it’s all subjective, both within and without.

“Radical Democrats”

…lol

Friend got hit by a car when on bike, went flying, rolled over the car, smacked into the road.

Got up, checked bike first, sighted and started dragging it’s carcass back home.

…but to be honest, dude was kinda indestructible and totally the exemption in every dangerous situaiton.

They probably hope to cause as much of an uproar as they can. Due to shit he is doing, no other country moved to help yet.

Heh. Context matters though. I honestly didn’t even know Cognitive Behavioral Therapy shared that acronym, not being native speaker and all that. Sure as hell my original meaning was more…erm…in your face on memey social media xD

CBT exists… :|