F R Y D

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  • FRYD@sh.itjust.workstoAsk@piefed.socialWhat advice do you have for dating in 2026?
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    10 days ago

    Avoid the apps like the plague. Go out to events where you can talk to people. Join hobby groups or go to hobby classes. Prioritize meeting people over finding potential partners.

    Lots of people out there don’t want to date and if you strike out at a meetup or group then people are gonna pick up that vibe and avoid you. If you really connect with someone then either you or they will pick up on it and things will progress naturally.

    That’s my method at least. If you want something more direct and with the end goal of dating, there are often singles groups/events that are more explicitly focused on that. Although at the risk of sounding judgemental, that sounds like the kinda thing where everyone is gonna be reeking of desperation and the people there will be less likely to live healthy independent lives.






  • You could look into a government job. It’s kinda fraught with the current administration, but there are lots of entry level government jobs with regular schedules and decent benefits.

    Another possibility is care work or whatever it’s called. I have a few friends who work in housing for the developmentally disabled and I’ve seen listings for jobs in psych wards/mental health type places that don’t have any degree requirements. There’s probably similar jobs in elder care too that don’t have any degree requirements.







  • I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.

    The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.