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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • But here we are, years later, and he’s still hell-bent on becoming a “Carrington.” Why?

    I think you answered this yourself directly after this.

    Well, for one, he’s never liked me or my last name, and he’s not close to my side of the family at all…I have siblings, but…neither did I ever let my son visit them. The last time my son saw my parents or my siblings was when he was 10 years old, and that was it.

    From my perspective your side of the family sounds dysfunctional. You have siblings and living parents but you don’t see them and won’t let him either? What exactly does this lineage represent to him I wonder? Isolation? Disappointment? Bad feelings? I can’t imagine it’s anything good.

    But still, that doesn’t give him the right to change his last name

    Depending on his age, you have no say in this decision and I think you need to come to grips with that.

    For actual advice: talk to him and try to understand what is driving this without judging him or trying to change his mind. Additionally, I’d work to repair your extended family relationships, with your son. If his linage is real people he has bonds with, I suspect he would be less willing to sever those ties.

    I wish you the best of luck.