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Cake day: 2024年6月29日

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  • In my opinion what you are describing is way too fast. If someone did that when dating me, I would run.

    But I’m not part of your situation, so my opinion doesn’t matter. What matters is that it works for the two of you. You are fine with it, so that’s covered. So my only advice would be maybe check with him if he is comfortable with it. Or be prepared to deal with the consequences if he isn’t.



  • It’s not necessarily as simple as “just observe his behavior”. Sure, if this is someone who dates young women routinely and on purpose, the guy might show obvious red flags. But even if his motives are “innocent”, the dynamics with even much smaller age gaps are usually very unhealthy and unequal, at least in my experience and especially when one partner is not at least in their mid-twenties. Often it’s something they only realise much later.



  • I live alone, so have a group chat with several friends and family members with the sole purpose of me sharing my location whenever I’m going home from somewhere alone at night and telling them when I arrived safely.

    There are of course many bigger reasons, especially if you look worldwide. But sometimes it’s worth looking at all the small adjustments we have to do in our daily lives. Sometimes I just want to walk somewhere at night without listening for every car approaching from behind to check if it slows down when nearing me.


  • Guys refusing to take a simple No for an answer always makes me think of Elizabeth’s refusal of Mr Collins in Pride & Prejudice and how little some things have changed in the last 200 years.

    Do not consider me now as an elegant female, intending to plague you, but as a rational creature, speaking the truth from her heart.

    Including having to bring a man in (albeit the father, not a boyfriend):

    […] determined, if he persisted in considering her repeated refusals as flattering encouragement, to apply to her father, whose negative might be uttered in such a manner as must be decisive, and whose behaviour at least could not be mistaken for the affectation and coquetry of an elegant female.








  • The moment I thought: “What is the point of everything if I’m not myself? Who else am I living for?”

    I had a lot of confidence issues as a teen and young adult and hid a lot of myself. It was still a long way after this realisation and I’m not quite there yet, but I’m so much happier since my baseline is “this is who I am, take it or leave it.”

    Social life has also improved. Turns out people like a personality even with flaws better than no personality. Who would have thought? (Not 15 year old me, apparently)






  • I don’t know how I ever lived through winters without my Merino leggings. They are warm and comfy. But they were not in a price category I would buy 8 of them.

    It’s neither necessary nor recommended to wash wool that often. For me it’s enough to air them out on my balcony over night and only wash them after several wears, so I’m good with 2. But if that doesnt feel right to you, them maybe wool would not be the best choice for you (or you’ll have to replace the leggings more often).