

I don’t think that’s a good parallel. Some people genuinely want to help and don’t know how, so a spreadsheet is perfect for that situation. Other people feel an obligation to help, so seeing other people jump in will make them act as well.
Before reading the rest of the article, I thought that it’s okay being the friend that most always initiates conversation, but not the one that absolutely always does that. If (all) your friends that frequently hear from you don’t stop to wonder what happened after weeks of silence, that’s not an asymmetry issue, that’s people not caring.
The thought that we need to get our friend’s attention the same way creators do popped into my head and I hope it’s just something silly I can’t shake off. There’s another thought, though. Being that kind of friend doesn’t allow you to have any depressive episodes or risk falling down more than you should with a supposedly support system around you.





















Definitely read on asexuality, it broadens the understanding of sexuality in a way that benefits everyone. Also, I think you should separate what you feel from what you do and biological needs. You may feel certain kinds of attraction, you might have an urge for sexual release, maybe you prefer sex to solo masturbation, you can just choose one activity without feeling the need to do that specific activity.
Think about cake. Do you like all kinds of cake? Do you ever crave cake? Do you sometimes just crave something sweet and cake is a good option? Maybe you don’t think about cake, but you know that you will like it of it’s offered from time to time or as part of an experience with someone else. Finally, do any of that get labels? Probably not, but understanding yourself will make you happier. Personally, I go for definitions instead of labels, and that you have already provided. Just expand it - everyday.