I feel like everyone here needs a reminder that love bombing is something that happens AFTER mistreatment to make the victim calm down and become compliant.
This isn’t just being overly affectionate, it’s a technique used to manipulate behavior and keep a victim loyal.
I don’t know if most people understand how powerful this answer is. Many boys are conditioned to be Mr fix it. Those of us that are, are trained to believe that ALL problems are our problems.
It’s powerful to hear, “this is my problem, not your problem”. It turns the whole world upside down.
Oh pointy birds
Oh pointy pointy
Anoint my head
Anointy nointy
-Steve Martin
Whether or not other artists deserve more attention is kind of beside the point. The point is that people are complicated and multifaceted and both good and bad things can come out of a person. None of us are all one thing.
Clearly JK created something that was loved around the world, but clearly she also doesn’t know how to coexist and empathize beyond her prejudices. The bad thing didn’t erase the good thing from existence, but it certainly complicates our relationship with it.
Mushi shi is pretty great.
Yeah, well we aren’t talking about Brazil. My state is all paper. There are multiple audits and there are public observers at every stage. The shit would hit the fan if it was even one ballot off. It’s a super transparent and auditable system.
Or just tax the tires.
Can someone explain to a Gen x guy what “listening data” gets me? I’ve been living off a folder of mp3s for 30 years. Does this use my music? Does this get it from the Internet somewhere? How is it different from asking Alexa to play music for me? Thanks.
Some people, not anyways men, have been taught, rather mercilessly, that they have to be self sufficient. These people get aggravated, even angry when someone else fails to live up to the standard that they (unfairly) were forced to. There can be an instinctive feeling that it is somehow an injustice to them.
That doesn’t excuse abandoning someone in the wilderness. Often these people struggle to learn to be a kind helper.
Also, none of this is meant to excuse the behavior. It is possible to understand “why” without condoning it. When confronting this it is important to be firm that it is unacceptable, as well as understanding that it may be a struggle to relearn.
Ferals are scared of people and not socialized at all. There’s a huge behavioral difference.
Well I wasn’t going to, but I guess I’ll give a shout out to Garuda, which has given me the gift of Arch but spared me any of these problems!
You could always Dremel it out. First try black electrical tape.
I don’t know what distro y’all are on, but I’ve been a beginner on an Arch based distro for a couple of years and I haven’t had a major issue that wasn’t fixed by an update and reboot.
Just install pamac, it can update every time you shut down. I don’t mind it updating every day if I don’t have to babysit it.
Someone who has been having adult relationships for 15 years is going to be able to convince somebody with 0 years of adult relationships of whatever they want. Whether you feel happy or loved, eventually that power imbalance has a high chance of causing serious problems for you that you couldn’t have seen coming.
Do it if you want, but go into it knowing that you are probably just a toy and probably won’t know until you are set up for a really bad time when you finally see all the things you are currently blind to.
If you need an analogy, think about having a cooking competition between a beginner and a 15 year professional. The beginner probably has no idea how hard they are about to get smoked if they are thinking about their opponent as just another person who likes to cook.
Clearly, they set the speed limits wrong.
Thanks for the positive response!
I don’t even see the ads anymore, just the close button. My eyes just slide off the edges.
Oh, Doom sounds fun. My neighbor just had Lode Runner.